"My First Time Rough Sex with a Blond" This is the first time I've ever had sex with a "deserving" guy, and I don't want to disappoint you. I'm not running away this time, though. I just want to know if you're feeling any pain. Is he aroused by me, or is it just me that's causing him pain? Is the pain real, or just a weird feeling that you get from being in love with someone? Well, it's not real. It's just that I feel "squeezing tight" .