Is orgasm the "essential part of sex" ? Is it the only way to have sex? The answer is no. It's not just the sex act, it's also the way you're supposed to behave in front of other people. You've got to act like a normal human being in order to get sex. You can't just slap someone and expect it to go away. You have to slap them and expect that they're going to freak out and freak out when they see you. You know, the kind of thing you'd do if you were in the middle of a riot and you saw a bunch of people running around screaming and yelling at you to get back to the rioting. What the heck is that?